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Monday 6 September 2004
my fatal flaw
MY FATAL FLAW is that I just can’t hold a grudge. Dammit!
I wish I could be mad at someone for longer than a few days. Okay, two weeks even.
If only I could sustain a bitter pill for 30 days. Sound weird to you? I dunno, I just wish I could hold a grudge better.
Filed under: faith(less), humor, policies
Posted by: Molly | 23:38 | Comments (25)
Eh.
Holding a grudge is overrated…
The couldabeens never die.
Too, the same is true when looking back upon erstwhile friends who seem to equate the burning of bridges with closure.
I have the same “problem,” I wouldn’t worry about it too much. Grudges just make me grumpy anyway.
Personally the only person I can reliably continue to dislike attacked me with a knife.
Everyone else I’ve given a second chance.
I’m brilliant at holding grudges, a world expert if you will. But I’m probably destined to be a grumpy old man
Holding grudges is over-rated. My better half is brilliant and not holding grudges and I’d much rather be like her.
My grudges don’t last that long either…probably because everyone I hold them against turns up dead a few days later…
always forgive. never forget.
that strategy has served me well.
Molly hon,
In combination with your marriage proposal, I must say that had you been married to me ten years ago, you would know how to hold a grudge.
Grudges just ain’t worth it. They slowly poison your innards. I tend to be more like you than not, but there are still a few people/situations that trip my rage trigger… and I so wish they didn’t. Cherish your slippery grudges, I say! The sticky kind are just no fun at all.
I’d wager that one is better off when their propensity towards grudges is less intense, but I can understand this sentiment. At least, I think I can. Why do you mention this though?
P.S. I clicked your Eurotrash link, and then from that person’s site I made my way to The Dullest Blog in the World. Made me LOL, as they say, and it brightened my day. I blame you! Thanks!
Your future husband—whoever he may be—will appreciate your inability to stay mad at him for long.
The only place to hold a grudge is in your own system – why would you want it there? From someone for whom grudges have to do with decades. I would love to share some out. ( go with comment 6 )
Don’t hold a grudge. Get even quickly, then there’s no need to hold a grudge.
Being “grudgefully challeneged” is one of the many things you and I have in common, my dear:)
Gah. Don’t wish that. Growing up in a family with some unbeliavably good grudge holders… It’s terribly overrated.
There’s a difference between not holding a grudge and allowing people to walk all over you. I unfortunately fail in both categories.
Sometimes I just sit back and think. I wonder, “why am I so forgiving?” It baffles me. Someone pisses me off, and the next day they’re forgiven, just like that. I’m really at a loss about where this is a good thing or a bad thing.
Having no real ‘enemies’ is a good thing, I guess.
I’ve always found this entire concept facinating. What does it mean to hold a grudge?
I think there’s a thin line between holding a grudge and simply taking into account past experiences with someone. There’s a way to be immature about it and there’s a way to do it professionally, and I think that’s where the line is. For me, that means to forgive and move past it, but don’t allow yourself to be put in that position where it could happen again.
In the past thread where you asked for music recommendations, I mentioned Faithless. They have a song called “Liontamer”, and the first few lines of that song I’ve kept taped to my monitor for a few years now.
If you place a thing into the center of your life
That lacks the power to nourish
It will eventually poison everything that you are
And destroy you
As simple a thing as an idea
Or your perspective on yourself or the world
No one can be the source of your contempt,
It lies within, in the center.
I think it’s better not to hold a grudge because it usually causes added stress to your life. Just keep it in the back of your mind what they did to you so if they ever come around again wanting something or trying to be your friend you can tell them no because….
What! I haven’t heard from you in ages. I could have sworn you must be holding a grudge against me for something! Call or email me soon chica. And hey, I’m coming to UIE9. Stand back Cambridge, Frankie is comin’ to town!
I’ve never understood the concept of revenge or holding a grudge. The logic doesn’t seem to make sense: You’ve done something bad to me, why does that qualify me to do something bad back to you? To teach them a lesson? It’d be better to find out why they’ve done this bad thing to you in the first place, and try and talk them out of doing it in the future. To make them feel the same way you have? Why? Do you think they’ve never felt bad before? Because it feels good? Well, so does smoking cannabis, but it’s not necessarily good for you.
Hmm.. sure, I would like to take the high road, and say that it isn’t worth holding grudges, but c’mmon! At times, all you need in a session of good old b****in’! And it reeks if you forgive the person, before you’re done grilling him!
Over night I always lose all my intentions to be mad at someone.
Yes, holding a grudge is inactive communication, but just once I would like to be mad at someone for more than 6 hours.
geez, it is difficult not to hold a grudge when someone acts like a nutjob and yells at you in a public place amongst peers that you would like to establish repoire with. especially when they’re yelling about baseless nonsense that is ridiculously and obviously pulled out of their ass.