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Monday 23 August 2004
the be my best friend story
BE MY BEST friend, she asked. We were six years old. Odd how early experiences can embed themselves into our personalities so deeply.
The Be My Best Friend Story
When I was a little girl at summer camp, another little girl came up to me and wanted to play. “Be my best friend?” she asked, and held out her hand. So Annie and I shook on it and we became best friends.
A few weeks later, a group of kids were playing outside, and I was walking up from behind because I’d gone to get a chocolate milk for Annie. Annie loved chocolate milk!
As I neared the group, I heard Annie ask another girl “Be my best friend?” And the other girl replied “I thought you were Molly’s best friend!”
Annie said “Yeah, but today I think she’s a dumb girl because she didn’t bring me chocolate milk so I want a new best friend.”
Well, there’s little six year old me, swearing I wouldn’t cry or yell at Annie, whom I believed to be my best friend.
So I ran away to the stream, throwing out the chocolate milk along the way. When I got there, a group of boys were killing tadpoles. I had a screaming fit at them to make them stop and then ran to a favorite tree and cried my eyes out ’til long past dark.
Filed under: faith(less), flashback, humor
Posted by: Molly | 13:56 | Comments (44)
Has anyone asked you that question since? I’d love to know your response if so.
If we open up to people, there is great opportunity. But there also is danger in that. Gladly, it will not always fail. Risk much and gain the universe.
I wonder what sort of person Annie is, today.
Geof: I don’t know if anyone’s ever asked me the question again, but I do know that I have had serious problems trusting the intentions of many people ever since. I’m still that little kid with the chocolate milk though, wanting to make everyone happy, but then I can strike out if I feel betrayed. Funny how I started thinking about that behavior and in a moment of clear remembrance saw the connection.
Toby, you are an eternal optimist – never lose that kiddo.
Phil – who knows?
Seth – it’s okay
Funny, I’ve experienced much worse trauma in my life but this one sure did seem to influence my behavior a great deal.
Maybe you should’ve poured the chocolate milk over Annie instead of in the stream? Revenge is a dish best served milky and chocolatey!
So where is Annie now? And do you have a best friend now? (just asking not offering!)
I think that sort of thing is common among children, although hurtful. The trick is, as an adult, to find the people who want you and not the chocolate milk.
Mike: I wish I had. But that’s never been my style. I’m more apt to scream at boys instead.
Simon: I don’t have a best friend now, really. I have a few very close friends, and have had best friends in the past. But an actual best friend, someone I talk to all the time and share my secrets with? Not for a long time now, no.
Keith: You’re absolutely right. Still, there is something inherent in my personality that feels compelled to bring the chocolate milk. I love the joy on others’ faces when they taste that yummy goodness. Martyr syndrome or just a person who really loves to see other people happy, I don’t know. I hope (and really do believe) it’s the latter.
1- She is just a kid acting like some adult that she viewed.
2- Dont mind about that, friends is like a star in the sky:
Even u can’t see(or know) he is there.
Some u can see, has already dead.
If need one(in moments of trouble), ask and the real friends will apear.
Molly, making people happy is about the greatest thing I can imagine. Cut out the personal revolution, what else is left. Nothing. Also, making others happy so greatly distracts from one’s own problems. Everything is about the little things in life.
Ahh bless! I hope you do find a new bestest friend one day. Until then I am sure your close friends are good for your soul!
friend is the most important in our life. friend makez other happy.friend can be forever.
really yoy are good friend in the life.me and my friend bindi same friend .
molly i gess you feel bad about what happend to you in the past
but life have to go on. you can’t stop trusting people…….
i am sure that there are many peole that do care about you.
and what happend was in the past but we are living in today, so don’t give up and keep looking, i am sure that you will find that person who care.
My name is Jose Luis Ardila Ibarra, I am 25 years old and studied electronics in Bucaramanga, I am Catholic and I am looking for a solution to my wishes and opportunity to grow my personality. I am very concious and try to fight against the unjustice I work on my computer and send ecards to my friends. Sometimes I listen to music and drive the card I am looking for a girlfriend who love me and travel. I buy clothing once a year and eat everyday. I like people like bill gates and the Pope. Thanks. bye.
…well the story was so touching, i also experience like that treating someone as my real best friend yet at the end i found out that it wasn’t for real..on my experience goes like this,, i meet a friend treated her as a real bestfriend i really trust her,, i used to write poems, and short story. So i show it to her i really thought she would be very glad, yet instead of uplifing me she pulled me done.. i lost self confidence in writing know at present i promise my self not to write any story.. would my desicion be right???
i wish every body has a best freind i have best freind called:
ayesha i hope u have one
Everything is temporary…..even best friends. Life is too short to dwell on it.
hmm,I can’t believe that there is a kind of people like annie who respect her friend just by a chocholate milk
molly tell me something………….. how old are you now????? and by the way , in the past i thought that there was’nt true friends ( or best friends) but annie could’t take that decition early or one day after you met…. maybe for you , you need be more expresive and let people now quick how much they represent on you, a best friend no is who when you cry,,,,, cry with you, no a best friend is who try to clean up your tears and bring you a smile………………… now tell me after u heard that what came up then???? what did you do??????
how many years ago was it??? and now in your real life ……….does that affect u?????????
sucks for you i guess! i have a best friend she is the greatest! i think everyone should have a best friend! it is the only thing that makes me happy to wake up in the morning!!!!
Best friends have a tendency to forget about you when they get involved with someone. Then, they break up and try coming back to you. Are you a bad friend if you deny them after you had made several attempts to keep the friendship going on while they were in la-la land?
Yout friend probaly dident realise what it meant, and what the loyalties meant, if you were only six at the time, it might seem as if i am just putting this down and i dont know what im talking about, i do because a simmalar thing happend to me when i was 12 and i cried for weeeks and wouldent eat, the best thing to do is to put it behind you.
I’ve had very few friends in my life and really don’t have any friends. I can be very friendly but people can still be so mean. 9th grade is a hell hole for me.
I love killing tadpoles!!! jk. i no how you felt. it happened to me once too.
I really felt so sorry for you! I really felt that but in the other way around! I have seen your website for I am scanning myself to look for a good characteristics of a true best friend! anywaY, just keep it up! I think you are a nice girl.. so you can move on… life is full of mystery… so just keep it up!
I’m so sorry to hear that~!I think that girl will regret some day for she lost a so nice girl to be a friend~!!~It’s her fault~!
I’m a Chinese girl !! coulu you mind being my good friend??
I know you are a nice girl!~
Firends are never for real, they all use you.. when they need you they will love you and later you are nobody, I was a loner in school all the girls in high school mistreated me, I used to do things for them to get attention but at they end they used to make fun of me. I wish I could see them now.. and tell them I donb’t care. My feelings r dead.
Aww.
I don’t seem to be very lucky with keeping friends. It’s worse when they’re your friend for years though and THEN just want you for the chocolate milk.
It’s also the worst when Annie is playing Be My Best Friend with someone else, but luckily that hasn’t happened to me. Yet.
I think that’s the reason why I don’t really believe best friends will last forever :\ well i hope they do, obviously, but looking at the past, probably not.
i want to good story of my best friend
even best friends are temporary
I do have a best friend, her and I are very close. It’s so great having her in my life, I couldn’t possibly imagine what it would be like without her. She is more or less my right arm. When I was younger, I had a best friend who died about five years ago, I didn’t meet my new best friend up until three years ago … and I can’t tell you how magical she really is. I never replaced my old best friend, if anything, she is still in my life, even though she died, she is still a part of my life.
I love the above story, it touched my heart.
No one has askded me such a question. But I do have my best friend. I think there is no need to declare that ” I’m your best friend”. Best friend is part of you life. Sometimes you don’t even notice it. But he/she is always there when you are in need.
That’s a sad story my friend, but I’ll offer to be your best friend. Yay!
Y’all are weird yo!!! Twas just some janky chocolate milk yo! Peace out homegirl!!!
Antichicken be done! Outy!
I feel so bad for you, i love the way you met with her. I have a best friend and i meet him by seeing him sitting all alone with nobody, so i went up to him and asked if he wanted to do somthing. Then after he asked “will you be my best friend forever?” and i said yes. We are still friends today. If u want Annie to be your best friend again, take her and have a talk with her, tell her how you feel and how special your friendship would of been.
It seems to me that we (humans) are Annie and God is Molly. We ask God to be our best friend and when He doesn’t come through with what we want when we want it, we look for a new best frined. Thoughts?